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Banned For Animals, But Celebrated for Children?
How surrogacy deprives children of their mother and rewires their brains
 • Them Before Us and Katy Faust
Dehumanization by Design
How Surrogacy Weaponizes Language to Commodify Children
 • Them Before Us and Josh Wood
Should We Swap Babies?
Why children belong with their Mother and Father
 • Them Before Us and Josh Wood
Surrogacy Without Payment Is Good, Right?
Why the commodification of children through surrogacy is always wrong
 • Them Before Us
Straight, Gay, or Single: Surrogacy Has a Victim.
Surrogacy isn’t wrong because of who chooses it, it’s wrong because of what it does to children.
 • Them Before Us
The Greatest Surrogacy Scandal Yet
How one couple got away with buying 21 children...
 • Them Before Us and Patience Sunne
Understand Why Embryo Adoption Isn’t Surrogacy: A Child-Centered Response to Jennifer Lahl
Why the comparison between embryo adoption and surrogacy gets it wrong, and why children’s rights must come before adult desires.
 • Patience Sunne
My Stepsister Ran A Surrogacy Racketeering Ring — And Just Got Two Years In Prison
I fight against everything my kind-of stepsister made money off of.
What Should You Say if Someone Claims "Surrogacy Is Liberation!"
Behind every $75K surrogacy contract is a child deprived of their mother, a woman commodified, and a system indifferent to abuse.
 • Them Before Us
Waking up to the plight of motherless children
The pushback against examples of two dads with a baby shows something has changed culturally
 • Them Before Us
3 Things to Know about Baby Buying
IVF and surrogacy turn kids into commodities. It’s time to name the cost.
 • Them Before Us and Katy Faust
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