I am 74 years old and my parents divorced, when obviously it was very much less common. When my father told my brother and I that he was leaving, he gave me his wedding ring. My mother then got hers and gave it to me. What do you do with your parents' wedding rings? I eventually sold them, after my father lost all the money that made it possible for him to leave and for my mother to receive such a large settlement that she never had to work. The symbols of their marriage brought about $161, if I remember correctly and I gave that money to my destitute father. I hate divorce.
Once again, overall, an excellent article bringing to the forefront what our culture tries to make divorce (and marriage as expendable and the result of adult desires fulfilled rather than commitment and covenant) look like, so many can justify their unwillingness to commit... which is what love actually is and why every child (even adult children) of divorce always carry scars that impact every relationship they enter into.
One exception to the article... in God's design for marriage, children should not be the center as that is also very destructive for them and the marriage. Christ is the center and first priority, the marriage and spouses should be the next priority and then the children who will benefit greatly from the real commitment and love of their parents! Thanks again and make it a great day in the Love & Lordship of Christ (Mark 12:29-31)!
Only child and child of divorce. It is awful and to this day my mom doesn’t acknowledge the terrible impact it had on me.
We had just moved into a new house, halfway through my junior year of high school. That was already jarring enough. FOUR months after we moved, they announced the divorce. Then, guess what, dad says we have to move again because he can’t afford the house on one salary.
In addition, even though mom asked for the divorce, she claimed she couldn’t afford to move out right away so for 3 months she slept in the spare bedroom and ran around bars and such after work. One night she didn’t even come home! My dad was worried sick, as was I. She didn’t bother to call or anything. Just walked in the house the next morning like what’s the big deal.
Thank you for this. I ended up being a single mom of five kids. I needed to divorce because of grievous adultery and abuse. My oldest child was 10 and my youngest was 2 years old. It was incredibly painful and difficult. My youngest child is now 23. I made a very conscious decision to never glorify divorce or to tell my kids that a single parent household is as good as having two parents in the home. I told them that divorce is as awful as they felt it is, and that I would do the very best I could to do the best for them under the circumstances. I told them that they should never have to pay the price for mistakes that adults made, and that they did not deserve this. It was not their fault. It was the mistakes of the adults.
It has sorrowed me greatly to see our culture out divorced women on a pedestal and say, " Go you!"
I made sure to seek out thriving stable marriages around me and to make sure my kids were around them. Fortunately, I live in a small community with a lot of people sharing my religion and that helped.
I am 74 years old and my parents divorced, when obviously it was very much less common. When my father told my brother and I that he was leaving, he gave me his wedding ring. My mother then got hers and gave it to me. What do you do with your parents' wedding rings? I eventually sold them, after my father lost all the money that made it possible for him to leave and for my mother to receive such a large settlement that she never had to work. The symbols of their marriage brought about $161, if I remember correctly and I gave that money to my destitute father. I hate divorce.
Wow. Thanks for sharing.
Funny, that. I too have my parents’ wedding rings. Like what the heck am I supposed to do with these?
Once again, overall, an excellent article bringing to the forefront what our culture tries to make divorce (and marriage as expendable and the result of adult desires fulfilled rather than commitment and covenant) look like, so many can justify their unwillingness to commit... which is what love actually is and why every child (even adult children) of divorce always carry scars that impact every relationship they enter into.
One exception to the article... in God's design for marriage, children should not be the center as that is also very destructive for them and the marriage. Christ is the center and first priority, the marriage and spouses should be the next priority and then the children who will benefit greatly from the real commitment and love of their parents! Thanks again and make it a great day in the Love & Lordship of Christ (Mark 12:29-31)!
If they get along so well, what in the world could have happened?!
My guess is one of them, probably her, found someone else they wanted to have sex with.
Only child and child of divorce. It is awful and to this day my mom doesn’t acknowledge the terrible impact it had on me.
We had just moved into a new house, halfway through my junior year of high school. That was already jarring enough. FOUR months after we moved, they announced the divorce. Then, guess what, dad says we have to move again because he can’t afford the house on one salary.
In addition, even though mom asked for the divorce, she claimed she couldn’t afford to move out right away so for 3 months she slept in the spare bedroom and ran around bars and such after work. One night she didn’t even come home! My dad was worried sick, as was I. She didn’t bother to call or anything. Just walked in the house the next morning like what’s the big deal.
This is the most Frankie Muniz- type thing I’ve ever read about…..
Thank you for this. I ended up being a single mom of five kids. I needed to divorce because of grievous adultery and abuse. My oldest child was 10 and my youngest was 2 years old. It was incredibly painful and difficult. My youngest child is now 23. I made a very conscious decision to never glorify divorce or to tell my kids that a single parent household is as good as having two parents in the home. I told them that divorce is as awful as they felt it is, and that I would do the very best I could to do the best for them under the circumstances. I told them that they should never have to pay the price for mistakes that adults made, and that they did not deserve this. It was not their fault. It was the mistakes of the adults.
It has sorrowed me greatly to see our culture out divorced women on a pedestal and say, " Go you!"
I made sure to seek out thriving stable marriages around me and to make sure my kids were around them. Fortunately, I live in a small community with a lot of people sharing my religion and that helped.
Wow. Thank you for sharing. What an example.