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Elicia Wetstein's avatar

One thing that my family is navigating, is how to respond to my children about two-mommy families. My daughter’s best friend says her daddy is a donut (she means donor) and my daughter doesn’t understand.

Them Before Us's avatar

This would be a great thing for us to write an article on. What are the best age-appropriate ways to inculcate the good, true, and beautiful, and still have space and grace for the different families around you?

Lucy Leader's avatar

Another difference between adoption and surrogacy is the total and complete erasure of mothers, particularly when men buy themselves a baby: https://lucyleader.substack.com/p/telling-it-like-it-is-without-the

Some men don't even bother to hide this fact; their purchased baby is their queering project: https://lucyleader.substack.com/p/queering-babies-is-there-no-escape

Abigail Joy Starke's avatar

Agree w article…except hard to swallow. Soft spot. Ivf. Didn’t do it to be selfish. Wished we could naturally hv them. They were our egg, sperm.

Also, adoption laws are very stringent and I believe need changing for someone who had a felony when they were in their teens and bc of Jesus, radically different than what they were. And it had nothing to do w children. But follows one around for life.

At least where we are/I am.

My husband is now w the Lord, and many times I wish I had a little curly red head with freckles and blue eyes. A little boy to carry on his name.

And obviously I wish he was here.

He would hv bn a wonderful father!

🙏💔.

Abigail Joy Starke's avatar

Was pregnant but we lost the one.